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Door: SoulfoodBali

Geplaatst op Feb 16, 2017

Lovely people,

YESTERDAY I MET A GIRL

She told me she had some problems with her time managing. Finding it hard to enter some ‘alone time’ in her daily routine. She always made sure someone would join her, especially those outdoor activities. You know what I mean. She told me she thought that whenever she wouldn’t be in the company of others, she’d probably feel uncomfortable. She felt as if that thought, that way of time managing she’s been doing for years now, is holding her back in her life and her self-development.

IT MADE ME THINK ABOUT THIS TOPIC

Although I can enjoy the company of other people, I really appreciate my alone time. For me it is a must. I think it’s comforting and healing to have a break from listening, talking and suiting others. It gives me time to think, recover and usually new ideas are born when I’m by myself. So, that’s why I started writing this article, because in my opinion it is such an important, yet not often mentioned aspect of life.

“People make this error, thinking that being alone means being lonely, and not being alone means being with other people. But you need to be able to recharge on your own. Part of being able to connect, is being available to other people, and no one can do that without a break.”
John Cacioppo, University of Chicago

If you recognize yourself (a little bit) in this story, you might want to gain a little confidence and independence here. By being able to walk out the door to see a movie in the cinema without thinking you’re a desperate person. Because you obviously are not:) Sometimes we need to slightly change old habits in order to create a stronger version of ourselves.

YOU’RE PROBABLY THINKING ABOUT WHAT MIGHT HAPPEN, AND THOSE THOUGHTS ARE HOLDING YOU BACK

- Because it probably will be uncomfartable to not to be involved in conversations all the time, while everyone around you is.
- And we can be afraid of all the thoughts that will arise in our heads.
- It’ll be a weird experience to eat at public places.
- Afraid to get bored soon.
- We’re thinking we’re not able to handle a problem when we’re traveling by ourselves.
- Having problems deciding what to do, where to go, where to eat, etc. etc.
- Afraid of feeling lonely.
- Thinking about what other people might think.
- All relatable thoughts, but not necessarily true.

“There’s so much cultural anxiety about isolation in our country that we often fail to appreciate the benefits of solitude.”
–Eric Klinenberg, sociologist at New York University

JUST GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

And try to see yourself as your very best friend. So laugh when something funny happens while you’re out there. Tread yourself by having a nice lunch or dinner. Don’t care about what other people might think about you.

YOU’LL NOTICE THAT:

- Creativity will show up.

- And the time we dó spend with other people will be more precious. Saying no to activities with your friends doesn’t mean you’re neglecting the relationships you have. Instead, you will focus on the quality of the connection in times spent with your beloved ones.
- You’ll get the change to meet new people. When you can manage to have a kind and open aditude when you’re out there, you’ll see that there’s a sea full people who would love to spend some time with you. You get the change to listen to their stories and learn from it too.
- You can do exactly what you want. Having no plans is such a nice feeling. Plus, with a fully booked program there will be just a small change something great and unexpected will happen.

“The most powerful times in our lives can be the time between times, or life’s transitions that give us the opportunity to choose.”
Bill Crawford, Comedian

Thanks for reading.

With love,
Loekie

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